What do your desire in your life? Aside from smaller/bigger boobs, winning the lottery and a movie-star husband? When was the last time you sat down and thought carefully about your secret desires, wants and needs? And I'm not talking domestic needs or career wants, but simple, honest desires for YOU! If the answer is years ago, it's worth remembering that knowing what you want abd beed us the key to living a happy and fulfilled life. Why? Well, because it's the fulfillment of what you desire that determines how happy you feel and how happy you are in your own skin, or, as the experts say, how authentically you end up living your life.
Quash your needs, ignore what you desire or just simply forget about what you want out of life because you're too busy getting things done, then the chances are you're going to be someone who wakes up one day and feels unhappy, depressed and plain fed up. If that sounds familiar, you're not alone; most of us have spent a lifetime trying to please someone else and be what we're not, which is why it's time to give yourself a wakeup talk and consider just what you want and why. Maybe you think you're too old, or too poor to go for it. Or perhaps you think it's just too late to go after what you want and makes your dreams come true. Maybe, you even believe you're just too busy making a living to bother about what you want. If so, it's worth knowing that it's never too late to be who you want to be in life.
Life is full of examples of late bloomers: women who took up writing at 70 and became world-renowned authors, actresses who suddenly won an Oscar at 60, or businesswomen who made their first million in their fifties. While I am not advocating waiting until you're grey to make your impact, the point is that if they can do it so can you. The good news is that sucess and a sense of fulfilment are not just for people in their early twenties - they are for anyone willing to get out ther and grab life.
Reinvention is also on offer for all: look at all the women who lose half their body weight after a lifetime of being fat, or those who decide they are going to run a marathon, climb a mountain or even start their own business after years of being bored out of their minds. Or even women who end up single after 20 years of marriage and blossom overnight into gorgeous beings who have lives twice as exciting as before. It's not an accident or fluke, it's all down to rediscovering who they are, deep down inside.
The fact is, you have one life, and if you currently hate where you are, you owe it to yourself to change things and cram it with as much fun, happiness and a sense of achievement as you can. What's more, it's not selfish to put your desires first even if you have kids or are part of a couple, but it is matyrdom if you decide to put your needs second and then make everyone else feel bad about what's happening to you. Which means that if you're fed up and can't remember the last time you let rip with a loud laugh, and/or have no idea when you last when you last felt euphoric with joy, it's time to refocus and fight back.
Pin pointing your desires is where it all begins, and the strategy, and the strategy is simple: think about what you want and why, and not just in a serious way. Wanting more fun, less gravity and generally more adventure is what life is all about, alongside the day-to-day business of living, work, relationships and bills.
Source: Naughty but nice: The no excuses guide to getting what you want by Anita Naik